When I was in Middle School, lunch time was the social event of your day. While in the classroom, you were pretty much just like everyone else (which is the ultimate goal in Middle School). It was at lunch when you were “grouped”. Where you sat, who you sat with, whether you bought lunch or brought lunch, all mattered, as ridiculous as that may sound. Only two groups bought hot lunch: the rich kids (because they had a parental disposable income) and the poor kids (because they ate at a reduced fee, or free). That leaves everyone else who brought their lunches. I remember buying my lunch exactly one time (but that is my memory, not fact). I remember this specifically because as I waited in line, looking thoroughly annoyed (it was cool to emulate the girls from Sixteen Candles and Breakfast Club) with my bouffant Princess Diana hairdo, braces (with rubber bands), my pink floor length cotton tank dress and white gladiator sandals (which, I’ll have you know, are back in style), one of my friends came up to me and told me that the coolest boy in our class thought I looked “cute” and “pouty” (which I am sure meant “childish” and “grumpy”, but I took it as a compliment). I digress.
My Mom made my lunch every day, “with love” as I am sure she would add. It was always the same formula:
x + y + z = sustained energy/nutritious lunch*, aka “Mom’s food formula”
* x = a combination of healthy bread, a meat, a cheese and something green, like lettuce or sprouts.
y = one piece of fruit
z = something sweet
I always got $.25 for a drink and being the good girl that I was, always splurged on milk. While my friends always had nutritiously void white bread sandwiches stuffed with nitrate-rich bologna and processed cheese, and an assortment of Hostess sweets (Ding Dongs, Twinkies, etc), I always had something well-rounded and nutritious. You know, the last thing you want to lay out in front of a bunch of snotty, judgmental 7th graders. While today, I am so incredibly impressed and thankful for my mom’s drive and ability to put together three well-rounded bag lunches for us kids five days a week, at the time, a corn dog and a can of Dr. Pepper (because that is what all the other kids ate) would have given me a 7th grade confidence you don’t find in a turkey, lettuce, cheese sandwich followed by a medium sized apple and (if my mom was feeling really squirrelly) an oatmeal Little Debbie Sandwich which was washed down with two cups of 2% milk, which no doubt got me through my afternoon Earth Sciences class.
After college, I was incredibly lucky to be invited back to live with my parents in an effort to save a little money from my $7.04 an hour job so that I could eventually move into an apartment and gain a little of that early twenties independence. My mom made my lunches, which I took with me to work everyday. Except Mom’s food formula bar had been raised. In fact, more often than not, my sandwiches were now made with homemade bread (and of course still contained x + y + z methodology). I used my own spare change from my $7.04/hour job to buy a Diet Coke, for I was an adult now…so long milk! Not to sidenote, but homemade bread often had a very crispy crust which could cut the roof of your mouth as you bit into it (because each piece was 1.5 inches thick) and the bready part contained natural holes for the mustard to sneak through to mess your hands, or God forbid, your $34 suit (term "suit" used loosely) you spent part of your hard earned $7.04/hour money on from Mariposa.
It is now blatantly obvious how lucky I really was. My mom dedicated all of her time to the welfare of her children. Was the “formula” a well thought out plan of hers? Or simply common sense? As I spread the budget no-name peanut butter on to the Costco wheat bread (cracked, not whole) or as I set the microwave to 3:35 seconds to make Easy Mac
again, I stop and think….WWMD*?
*What Would my Mother Do
Granted they didn’t have Easy Mac in the 80’s….but would serving a bowl of orange powdered pasta upwards of 3 meals a week been ok? Or would that have kept her up at night? The one thing I do remember learning from my Mom’s food formula is that a plate must have 3 different colors on it. “Different” being the operative word.
Wrong: Rice (white), mashed potatoes (white) and chicken (whitish).
Right: Wild rice (brown flecked), Broccoli (green) and chicken (whitish)
It seems so simple. Execution is the hardest part.
I am standing at the fork in the road of child-rearing which includes my children’s nutritional future. Does my behavior now determine if my kids are picky adults, or if they will choose the drive thru over something healthy, homemade and balanced? Am I setting my kids up for an adulthood of diabetes and obesity? Will my kids be one of the ones sitting at the Middle School lunch table obliviously noshing away on nutritously void white bread and nitrates? WTF? WWMD? My children, while only 4 and 16 months, are developing their own food pickiness which, unfortunately, tends to drive my menu, which most certainly does not follow Mom’s food formula. While in middle school I may have
wanted a corndog and Dr. Pepper, I
got a brown bag filled with x + y + z. And because I only had $.25 for a beverage, I had little other options than to just eat it. And guess what? I liked it. And I am guessing, so would my kids.
Maybe it is time to pull out the parenting manual to read the chapter on how to convert from a menu of “I-serve-him-this-because-I-know-he-will-eat-it,-so-what-if-it-is-only- one-item,-one-color-at-least-I-don’t-have-to-hear-whining” to “x + y + z = sustained energy/nutritious meal”. I need to go because I have some manual reading to do and Thank You Mom for making the estimated 8395 lunches, give or take a few (more than the usual child, seeing how you made my lunch until I was 24 years old). While I may not follow it to a “T” (yet), at least it helps me to recognize my areas needing improvement, so my children thank you too. Or at least they will in 30 something years.
Love, B
Um. Yea.
Bro-hams:
We started the night with some pizza, raspberry lemonade and watermelon
And then we moved on to presents of which Henry was showered with Star Wars EVERYTHING!
The best ice cream cake we have ever had (from Dairy Queen):
Charlie, just hanging out, waiting for the kids, making sure his buns are still in his pants:
And Grandpa. Where do I start. What looked like a pile of PVC piping, soon turned into an enormous kid car wash. Very clever Grandpa! Clever indeed!
Kid car wash in action. Ax on the hose. Kysa at his mercy.
In heaven:
I think it is safe to say Henry had a great time!
As did Ax:
And Charlie - but he has a good time wherever he is. Maybe we should just call him "good time charlie"
A very excited Henry who cannot wait to blow out those candles!
Forever Friends....and cousins:
We are finally in the home stretch of our much anticipated vacation to Reno! 
